Friday, November 13, 2009

My boyfriend is creeping me out during sex?

He's the only guy I've been with so I don't know if this is normal or not.....but he always hits me and like pinches me and stuff when were having sex and he gets like really excited if I'm crying. It creeps me out, are other guys like that or is it jus him?

My boyfriend is creeping me out during sex?
I'm being totally serious here:





Aggression during sex is usually pretty normal. Some women even ask that their man be more "dominating" during sex. But, the fact that this guy gets off on seeing you cry is a huge warning sign--a f'ing air raid siren actually. This shows that he has a very deep sadistic streak; he enjoys seeing you cry, in pain and helpless, as he takes you. The fact that he didn't stop and ask, "hey...hey...are you alright?" shows he isn't even tuned in to what's going on with you--he's focusing on himself.





You should really take stock and consider leaving this guy.





A lot of sadists go through what is called " a progression" where they gradually go from pinching, to hitting, to much harder things like choking or forced sexual intercourse.
Reply:Some guys like rough sex, but if he's hitting you to the point that it makes you cry, and then getting excited, that is not normal.





Why would you want to be with someone that hurts you, and gets a rise out of it at the same time?
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Well..I guess he likes really rough sex, but obviously you don't so just tell him you don't like it, and show him what you do like.
Reply:Sounds like he watches some perverse porn and is acting it out on you , I would speak up and ask him whats the reason is....
Reply:the only thing that should matter is whether it bother you. if it does, tell him.
Reply:HE"S A FREAK anyone who would get off if ur crying isnt caring about u at all only his own pleasurs.
Reply:I've never had anyone hit or pinch me. If you don't like it, put a stop to it or move on.
Reply:ive been with more than 1 person and i have never had someone that way! lol Maybe he just likes it Kinky. But if it really is creeping you out you need to stop your relationship with him or let him know you dont like it like that, maybe he is doing if cause he thinks you like it let him know you dont like it and see if he changes.
Reply:That's not normal. That's really weird and kind of disturbing. Why would he punch you and pinch? or anyone in that situation. Tell him you don't like it when he does that.


He shouldn't get excited if your crying, that's terrible. He should feel bad especially if he did it.
Reply:no, theres something seiously wrong with this guy, what happens when hitting and pinching you dont do the trick for him no more, is he gonna abuse you worse?? id leave this guy and find someone who knows how to show you love both in bed and out of it
Reply:No, it's not normal. It's a mental disorder called 'sadism'. That is, getting sexual pleasure by causing pain to others. (Hitting etc lighty in a way that gives pleaure to both may be done during sex if u both enjoy it. But if he gets excited when u r hurt and u cry, something is definetly wrong!!!) Get ur boyfriend to get help! And u need to stop getting hurt!
Reply:umm... i've been told some guys like to give lil bit of spankin during sex. but... your case... that's bit too far... yeah... i think you should leave him, cuz he might hurt you real bad later.
Reply:it's just him.. that's weird..





Why would you be crying?
Reply:Rough and ready obviously does it for him- you have to tell him it doesn't do it for you! The best thing to do is talk to him, and reach a happy medium, where it works for both of you! He probably just doesn't realise it freaks you out, and might be mortified to learn he scares you! If you are genuinely scared,it isn't healthy, and if he isn't willing to change/listen, he might not be the right guy for you hun!!
Reply:OK so are the teachers at your school seeing the bruises from your mothers husband beating you or from your boyfriend hitting and pinching you during sex? I'm confused!?
Reply:no, not all guys are like that. if you don't like it, tell him to stop. you shouldn't put up with something you are uncomfortable with or just don't like. if he continues then you need to break things off with him. you don't have to put up with it.
Reply:its a normal crazy guy
Reply:lol To answer your Q? Yes, some guys do that. Everyone is different %26amp; has differents ways of getting pleasure....g'luck
Reply:Your boyfriend is crazy and has some serious sexual issues, get rid of him .....fast. You deserve much, much better than this! This is not normal behavior, and no, not all guys are like this, actually, no normal mature guys are like this. Run fast before he really hurts you.
Reply:It's not just him, but it's definitely not normal. This is what is referred to as sadomasochism (S %26amp; M). It means that they enjoy violence and pain involved during sex. Later in life, he will probably use more toys, leather, whips, etc.





If you're not into it, def move on.
Reply:uhhhhh yeah it's just him...
Reply:Just him... its a power thing! you dont deserve to be treated like that.. tell him go jump off a cliff the very sad man!!
Reply:there are alot of women out there that get off when a guy causes physical harm to them during intercourse... like getting choked, spanked and hit. I don't get it myself but there are people like that. Maybe he thinks you're one of those kind of girls





be honest with him, tell him it creeps you out. He should be willing to change. If he doesn't change, he has a serious problem and u need to evaluate your relationship with him

gert

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